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Relationships and boundaries ( Word Press Prompt 15/06/26)

Daily writing prompt
Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships.
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It is simple, and Kahlil Gibran described it perfectly;- though I will probably recollect and summarise incorrectly (Q.V.) ~Love and relationships are to the strings of a lute — they make music together, they resonate with one another, yet each string is distinct and separate. The music arises precisely because the strings are individual — not because they are fused into one. They rise and fall together in harmony, and yet are distinct and separate.

I would go further, it is our path to offer guidance and support to the one we have chosen to share our life with. Even if we believe a pursuit they want to wander wouldn’t really suit them, we should put aside difference and prejudice and carry them. If we are content and our partner wants to learn something new, change career and generally upset our easy idyllic life, let them. Help them. We should always encourage the promotion of each others will.
We should never guard them or contain them.
“Are you not afraid your wife will run off with someone else”, says the narcissist.
“If she will, she will, nothing my lash and chain could hold”
We are not each others property, trophy or chess piece. We love because of Harmony, not restriction and forcing another’s to our will.

Can you set boundaries when there should be no frontier and fence in the first place?

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